So, Let’s Talk About Special Needs...

March 20, 2018



When we hear the term “special needs,” we usually think of individuals who require assistance for disabilities that may be medical, mental, or psychological. I believe “special needs” encompasses an even larger group of individuals that may not have a diagnosis or accommodations. This group may include you, family members and others in the circles you find yourself in.


Many individuals have experienced problems of loss and separation that remain unresolved. We think of these losses as being in the past; however, they are very present in our day to day life. Some of us have told ourselves to “get over it”, “keep it movin’”, “everybody has problems,” and other lies we believed. The further back losses go, the more challenging it can be to recognize the current impact. Examples of losses can include:


  • Death

  • Infertility

  • Dreams

  • Losing ourselves in roles and relationships

  • Basic trust

  • Safety

  • Innocence

  • Losses through addictions and mental illness


At some point, it was easier to shove the feelings created by loss into the sub-basement, over in a corner, or under other piles, and we promised to deal with them later. Even when our conscious mind has given us the reprieve of fo