INSIDEOUT CONVERSATIONS PODCAST
Deep conversations about life, relationships, and recovery. In this personal storytelling podcast, licensed professional clinician, transformational speaker, and conversation starter, Lisa Lackey, shows you how to take the front seat in your life, to step out where you’ve been hesitant, and to move forward in being all that you and others have told you that you can’t be.
All you have to do is be willing to show up in your own life the best you can, and come on in to join the conversation.
Episode 017. This first episode of 2019, kicks off celebrating who we are as women, and making room for ourselves and our dreams. LET US BEGIN OCCUPYING OUR SPACE AS QUEENS is the first in a series specifically designed to remind ourselves and each other of our royal status as queens.
Have the conversation and action plan to clear the trails of distraction, lies and shadows that have frustrated you and your dreams.
So many of us have spent years, even decades helping others move their dreams forward, while putting ourselves and our great purpose on the back burner. Women will bring forth their great purpose and in the process heal and bring healing to the world.
Our great purpose will be unleashed sometimes in a fury, sometimes through gentle winds, and no matter how, the impact will continue to spark healing, the likes we have not seen.
You will be introduced to 5 life lessons by Dr. Seuss and I that will help in clearing the path for you!
Episode 016. Oftentimes when we hear about Imposter Syndrome, we hear of those, that despite their evidence of success there is a feeling of being phony and fraudulent.
In this podcast we will look at how our hesitancy and playing small, is actually another side of Imposter Syndrome. 7 symptoms that might indicate you are a giant in a grasshopper suit are shared for you to come to your own conclusion.
Episode 015. After spending so many years refining my “no”, and even getting to the place of not feeling guilty about saying no, I was interrupted by this three letter word; yes.
I was trying to figure something out related to one of our adult children, to the point of overwhelm and not any closer to an answer. When out of left field came the nudge to say YES to all that was and was not happening.
This seemed crazy, and after much push back, I found myself saying Yes, yes to yes, the more I spoke these words, the lighter I felt. At some point, probably after my resistance melted more and more, I realized that I was saying yes to something greater than the something I was trying to figure out. I was saying yes to the best for me, the best of me, and the best outcome for all concerned.
You will be asked to look at some of the places your definitive no, may need to consider an exuberant yes. We’ll look at the defensive posture of no, and how it can block us from who we desire to be. We will look at the stagnancy that is, at times the response to our “no”.
Does any of this mean “no” is not that best response at times, no, not at all. It means that if our “no” is in any way born out of self imposed limitations, it is time to practice YES, in its place.
Episode 014. We hear a lot about boundaries today. “Girl, I’m setting my boundaries.” Boundaries, boundaries.” When handled this way, there more like death threats, rather than exercising self compassion, and keeping yourself safe.
As discussed in previous podcasts, boundaries are about taking care of yourself. Boundaries are not about manipulating outcomes, punishing or controlling. There is a realization, that experiencing similar patterns that don’t work, hurt AND we have choices.
In this episode, we will talk about boundaries 2.0 = spiritual boundaries. This is self care/compassion that begins with an internal awareness; I deserve to be treated well, by myself and others AND I have to model to myself and others by setting boundaries. These boundaries help us to hold sacred our space as a precious child of God.
Episode 013. Too often difficult conversations never end, because we avoid, strategize and are often trying to protect our stance. In some ways, it feels like the same conversation over and over. Even when that pattern is recognized, it’s difficult to interrupt the pattern and even more difficult to see what part we play in this frustrating communication.
As you listen you’ll hear about:
What you require of other people when you’re in the role of Victim, Rescuer or Persecutor.
Once you see what you’re unconsciously requiring of others, you’ll know why the same patterns emerge when in difficult conversations.
Awareness, acknowledgement and accountability are game changers. These 3 A’s give you options, which include stepping outside the drama.
Episode 012. Do you find that when you’re in conflict, that your main objective is to get your point across? Do you walk around on eggshells to avoid the conflict, because it’s awkward? Maybe, when trying to work it out, you find your volume, tone and intensity increases and you’re yelling? Or, do you use the double punch of wit and insult? I don’t know, you may be masterful at conflict resolution, if you are great! If resolving conflict, is difficult and you keep having the outcomes with no solution, you want to listen to this!
You’ll hear about 4 communication patterns that block resolving conflicts. Not only that, you will get a close up of the roles and characteristics that get amplified in conflicts and other areas of our lives.
Episode 011. When we leave ourselves by being enamored or preoccupied with distractions, we gradually leave ourselves. Before we know it, we just don’t feel like ourselves and we start to look externally to feel better. We may even find “temporary solutions” only to find out that we are treating symptoms, rather than cause.
An example may be being frustrated about something you haven’t dealt with, so you put it on a “shelf”, as if that’s the “solution” to the frustration. Putting it on the shelf, may temporarily bring relief. However, if the cause, perhaps procrastination due to fear, is not dealt with, the “squatter of procrastination” will not leave.
Episode 010. We are living at a point in history, where we as women are being called to bring it. IT is our very own curated mojo. Our secret sauce, our little somethin' somethin', that thing that makes us who we are, that glam, that has nothing to do with hair, makeup and wardrobe and all to do with our bad a.. authentic, real self.
In this episode, you and I will answer the question, whose life am I living? If we aren’t open to gaining more insight about being open to truthfully answering the question, it’s difficult to impossible to bring it, to unleash our mojo. It is our responsibility to make the essential impact, the footprint that your life is meant to make, so that our lives are enhanced and encouraged to live more of the real life. Your mojo can hardly wait for you to bring it at a whole “nother” level.
Episode 009. "Dear Sistah Girl" is a series of episodes that get to the heart of our relations with women as women. We’ll look at the complexities and the absolutely soulful journeys inward and with each other that bring us into Sistah Girl relationship.
In Episode 9 we will learn more about the difference between talking dirty and why the “F” word when used in certain ways, for various reasons is sacred and carries within its vibe, a healing balm.
Episode 008. Deep conversations about life, relationships, and recovery. In this personal storytelling podcast, licensed professional clinician, transformational speaker, and conversation starter, Lisa Lackey, shows you how to take the front seat in your life, to step out where you’ve been hesitant, and to move forward in being all that you and others have told you that you can’t be.
Episode 007. As children, we are often comforted when we are afraid of the dark. We have night lights, to distract us from our fears. When we hear sounds at night, they often sound louder, shadows look like monsters coming to get us, and every potentially scary experience we have ever had comes to mind and our bodies remember the previous terror, as though what happened then is happening now. If we get stuck in the dark, though it is scary, it is familiar, we know how to navigate. To actually, walk through the dark and turn on the light, is not as familiar. The consequences of not doing the unfamiliar are; staying in the dark, seeing that the “monsters” in your closet, are your clothes, believing and living a lie, that darkness whispers.
Episode 006. If you are pretty tired of looking to things and people to make you feel happy, or believing that your circumstances are determined by factors outside of you, tune in and listen to Episode 6, Spiritual Bling.
Episode 005. Sometimes we find ourselves living in the shadow, on the sidelines, in the background, when we are being called to step up and out of the familiar. I want to ask you to take a risk on yourself, to go big, or go home. You can do it.
Episode 004. Do you ever feel like a witness, rather than a participant in your own life? Sometimes we spend more time visioning, strategizing and consulting than we do taking steps to actually live our vision. In this episode, by hearing my story, you’ll be encouraged to catch up to the YOU who you are, without the “what if’s.”
003 - Run for Your Life, Take 1 - You're In Danger
Episode 003. Fear can be a powerful distraction that confuses us into thinking that our next step, chapter, or move, is too scary. Fear whittles away at our courage bit by bit. Living in fear is not living. When we come to that awareness, if we do not take action, we’ll start to feel like we’re dying. So what’s the alternative?
Episode 002. At a certain point, you will become curious about why you are feeling stuck and unable to move. If we don’t know what we are getting from staying too long, it’s harder to make a different choice.
Episode 001. Why do a podcast? I want to encourage you to do something that you’ve been waiting to do -- later. Maybe my story will inspire you to start a conversation and take a risk yourself.